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Originally Posted by HDW
Do you have a relative (not your wife side of family) that can help watch your kid?

Nope, my parents spend half the year (the cold half) in AZ and the other half here. Other than that, it's just me.


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DDay (EA) - 8/17/12
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Oh, sure, you've got it all planned out.

Shall I predict what is to happen?

You're going to (maybe, eventually) go to court with your little pro se documents, and she's going to arrive with the best lawyer her money can buy, with legions of (expensive) expert witnesses, and refute and confound your little pipe-dream about the most appropriate custodial parent. The case will be made, that upon dissolution, you are both going to have to work anyway ("Why else would 2L2L be taking all these courses?"), so DD might as well reside with the parent with the better earning power, to pay for the requisite childcare directly.
So you go ahead with your plan, my friend, and see how fairly ( rotflmao) fathers get treated in child-custody cases. Keep us informed, okay?

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I agree with ng.
I think it is only a matter of time before she calls the police and says you threatened her with her mom as a witness.

I think it's just a matter of time before this happens.

Legally the courts don't discriminate against sex gender. But it does happen.
The judge in my case, when I files for emergency custody and a restraining order, basically laughed at me.

I think you need to file ASAP. And ask for a guardian a litem (GAL). The gal report is what determines custody. That's what won my case. You really need to get moving on this.

Can't your parents pay for an attorney? You need to tell them I need an attorney or she will take your grandchild and have her around random men she is sleeping with. Some o them may be child molesters. I need money to pay an attorney to protect your grandchild.

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Originally Posted by HDW
Can't your parents pay for an attorney? You need to tell them I need an attorney or she will take your grandchild and have her around random men she is sleeping with. Some o them may be child molesters. I need money to pay an attorney to protect your grandchild.

Alternately, I'd be applying for every damn credit card I could find in order to float an attorney--regardless of whether or not I could ever pay them off.

Now's not the time to be thinking that you have things under control from a legal perspective.


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If you have a VAR and she is screaming and shouting you could get an order of protection to bar her from the house and your DD for 21 days. Also, take care of yourself eat right, workout etc. oh also with order of protection you could get temporary child support.

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