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- We are going to the movies tonight
- planning to do/update needs assessmt and love busters tomorrow
- planning to talk with Dr Chamlers on Tues.
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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Busy day, I'm in my class, she passed her exam. Kids at swim meet. My sister calls to meet for dinner. I say, "no, we have plans." Then, Babysitter has flu: Date cancelled. "no, dont bother calling 3 other to find a backup. You (me) cant be calling girls to banysit. Its weird. She's gone shopping a couple hours. She invited the kids' friends over. Our "date" will be taking 4 t'weens out to dinner instead. House full of girls until 10? She'll be exhausted by then, so likely, nothing left for 'us'.
Maybe this is normal with kids, but just kind of shows a) we're busy, b) too little UA time, and c) our dates are last priority.
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To invite girls over because a baby sitter backed out without your agreement is wrong. It destroyed any of your date night from being salvaged.
Your wife sabatoged your date night.
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To invite girls over because a baby sitter backed out without your agreement is wrong. It destroyed any of your date night from being salvaged.
Your wife sabatoged your date night. Agreed. I know how difficult this stuff is Runner as I'm living with the same experiences you are. But this is where you need to use your voice. In a pleasant, non-accusatory way you need to communicate your needs and the needs of the M. It needs UA time to thrive. Your M won't be a priority (it appears) unless you voice your concerns that it currently isn't.
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So I told her about the appointment this morning. She was sending angry texts and then yelling on the phone, then more angry texts. She cant understand why I feel the need to call MB. "Just be happy." "you have no plan."
Anybody know how to move texts to email on iPhone?
Looking forward to meeting with Dr Chalmers. A dozy.
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She's not talking to me today. I'm looking forward to what she'll say to Dr. J. Either nothing, or an angy blow up? I really hope she will talk with Dr. J. I spoke with my parents, I needed some support and guidance. They offered to talk with her. But really not a good idea if I can avoid it.
So stressed out.
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So I told her about the appointment this morning. She was sending angry texts and then yelling on the phone, then more angry texts. She cant understand why I feel the need to call MB. "Just be happy." "you have no plan."
Anybody know how to move texts to email on iPhone?
Looking forward to meeting with Dr Chalmers. A dozy. You can take a screenshot and email the photo OR copy and paste
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Yeah, the copy/paste thing worked. Thanks!
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Anybody know how to move texts to email on iPhone? Another option -- open the text string, click edit in the upper right corner, select the particular text you want, then click forward in the lower right corner. Put in any email you want. However, it will only appear to have come from your phone. If you want to be clear who originated the text the screen shot is a better option.
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oh. Joy. We spoke with Dr. Chalmers last night. Wife thinks I'm not sane. Asking for a psych evaluation. Dr. J agrees. Ok, fine. Dr. J gets DW to agree to do home study course with coach. Dr. agrees. We hang up. DW thinks I'm clinically depressed and Dr. J is a really poor salesman. Seems like no intention of doing course. So. On the phone all morning trying to find a 'more qualified' Doc than the local group I found. At least she gave me specific assessments to request, and I'll get them done. That will be good info.
Of course I'm depressed, no denying it. Got the meds too. "Insane"?? Yeah, at this rate, I guess i'm almost there. I chalk it up to sleep deprivation. ( And blue balls. )
Really? This isn't Monday? ...'cause it feels like one...
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Gotta love Google.
Turns out I'm just an Introvert, INPT to be specific. And I'm in the wrong job. ( It was the right job before my new boss changed it up completely. ) So that explains a lot of stress. And the job search. I'm trying to get back towards programming, which I REALLY enjoyed. And DW gets upset when I dont enjoy her extrovert activities. There are tips to help that too.
Whew... Glad I'm not insane. Today. ;-)
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Welcome Introvert. I'm more of an extrovert ... but I do enjoy Programming too. Now I just get to manage the people that do the programming.  I'm glad you're not crazy.
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I did a lot of VB back when client server was big. Didnt get to make the transition to .Net and internet stuff. Now I'm taking a weekend course in SAP, and try to get into that realm. After that course is over, I'm going to try and learn iPhone/iPad development at home. I have some ideas for Apps I'd like to build.
Its not easy to be an introvert and manage people, I dont enjoy badgering people to do work, but that is part of the role.
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I did a lot of VB back when client server was big. Didnt get to make the transition to .Net and internet stuff. Similar paths. VB and classic ASP(intranet apps). Self learned of course but applied it to the job. Started down the .NET path but soon took on a role that took me away from that. Now I work in a dept. where PL/SQL is predominate but we have a small web group doing .NET. It's hard to stay on top of the technology which is a must. A family makes it nearly impossible.
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Update: Had an interview Friday... in Cleveland. DW asking if we can move to warmer state, TX, FL, NC... So I should look there. Seems like a good idea, but a huge disruption.
Completed my Mental Inventory yesterday, to see how crazy I am... Alchohol: No, Street Drugs: no, Hearing voices: no, paranoid: no, Was I on the cover of Time Magazine: no. Just depressed, lonely, bored, cranky, ok? Shesh. Just enjoying my midlife crisis.
Meeting the new counselor tonight to work on that.
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Its hard in the winter. I was able to get out weekend before last, it was in the 50s. If not, I'll go on the treadmill while the kids do their swim team. I hate running on the treads, so I put in a couple fast miles, then go work out or row. Spring is almost here!
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There is an article on Yahoo Shine about a survey of 100,000 people. It reports that happy couples have sex 3-4 times a week. A third of those happy couples sleep in the buff.
I guess I see this as a chicken-egg situation. I know I would be a lot happier with more frolicking and that with an eager partner instead of a reluctant one. It would feel like a marriage then, not just roommates.
It seems to me MB program focuses on getting the man to clean up his LB, and make LB deposits, but I think the DW plays an important role in trying to meet SF. According to Dr Hurley, the only option for the guy is Plan B. If you are a woman, imagine your Love Bank if your DH did everything except IC with you. How long would that R last?
I am trying to be patient, and address my flaws, but...it takes two to tango.
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