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Sorry I checked and the logger name was not on the statement.
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I am able to see the screenshots being emailed to me again with the paid logger. They are clean and I'll be back as soon as I notice anything wayward.
In the mean time would Plan B be appropriate for next weeks?
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I am able to see the screenshots being emailed to me again with the paid logger. They are clean and I'll be back as soon as I notice anything wayward.
In the mean time would Plan B be appropriate for next weeks? Are you back home? Did you write the Harleys?
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No BH I'm still at my parents. He hasn't contacted yesterday evening either, just on the computer after coming back from his brother's. some YouTube sad songs, news n award shows.
His still kept the place such a mess. This is weekday #3 not including the weekend here.
Harley's had mentioned about his honesty needed in relation.
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Wearld you are going around in circles. You are not going to catch him cheating by watching the keylogger if he knows that you installed this. Do you want to find out what he is doing or have you decided that it does not matter?
If it does not matter, what are you going to do about your marriage?
If it does matter, what are you doing to do to find out what he is up to?
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I'll have to do all the talking and put the conditions. I don't want to contact him. I cannot or dont want to put up with him.
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I can't figure out what I want. No one wants abuse but I don't feel courageous enough to do all the talking.
Today when he didn't show up at the apartment till 7pm, I called his mother and she said he left at 4.30pm. Maybe he's been at library.
The verbal abuse has started, I was sitting in the bedroom and he comes next to the bed and says what are you doing here.
Even this phone feels has a logger.
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The update is I'm feeling better this week. I spent last 2 nights at the apartment. He didnt bring up anything. If I bring it up then I wud be putting conditions he doesnt care about.
I waited all last week and finally on Friday texted his brother that i dont know where he is after he leaves their place and he's talking to women online. I'm sure the brothers spoke and I was told I should talk to him. But again, now if I bring it up they are my conditions or ill be ignoring the problems.
Im unable to get access to his phone.
Any advice? Should there be communication yet?
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The update is I'm feeling better this week. I spent last 2 nights at the apartment. He didnt bring up anything. If I bring it up then I wud be putting conditions he doesnt care about.
I waited all last week and finally on Friday texted his brother that i dont know where he is after he leaves their place and he's talking to women online. I'm sure the brothers spoke and I was told I should talk to him. But again, now if I bring it up they are my conditions or ill be ignoring the problems.
Im unable to get access to his phone.
Any advice? Should there be communication yet? I'm confused. Is he staying with you at the apartment? Are you not talking to him?
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Yes he's at the apartment and neither of us r talking. He's on the couch still and continues to keep the place a mess. This is how the conflicts happen, unless I let it go and start hanging out in the living room. This time is different after I know what he did.
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But you don't know what he did do you? You never followed through on finding out what he was up to.
Neither did you impose any conditions on him for returning. What happened to plan B?
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living_well I'm thinking I'll have to retry later once if i have access to his phone to find out more on wt he's up to.
The only time i had a chance to state any conditions was the day after i left the apartment for the first time. At the time i had lost it and it was too soon for me realize that it is even fixable.
But his current attitude, im still not sure of. I drove by the apartment, got a few of my things and without a gps he was enjoying me calling his brother's place twice last week to ask if they knew where he was.
I spent the evenings of the weekend at the apartment to see if he's home. I did state to him that he needs to clean his mess there and this is pretty much how conflicts are. I dont think i take or get a chance to state the conditions.
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BH I posted about the desktopshark on the other forum. Just wanted to make sure u saw it.
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Did you ever hear back from support? Can you call their 1-800 number?
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Didn't hear back from them via email. Their website doesn't seem to have a support phone #.
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BH back up working again. I re-tried when i got to the computer today. Must be a problem at their end over the weekend.
Thanks to living_well to remind me to keep strong on Plan B. I want change and will keep calm. Found radio shack around here today.
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BH back up working again. I re-tried when i got to the computer today. Must be a problem at their end over the weekend.
Thanks to living_well to remind me to keep strong on Plan B. I want change and will keep calm. Found radio shack around here today. To be in Plan B, you must be not living together. Right now you're in Plan A while you're snooping and gathering evidence. Can you be like Mrs. James Bond while you're snooping? Dr. Harley only recommends 3 weeks in Plan A for women. You need to find out what is going on. Carrot and Stick of Plan A
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I'm not fast enough cause there was a screen shot with him in the logger's installation folder. Emails have stopped.
If I dont find anything by end of this week it means i'll have to talk to my parents instead of working on this myself. If I am snooping and in plan A, shall i just go stay at the apartment?
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Unlike as I had hoped that I'm not one bring up a conversation, I had to via text. There is no sense of agreement in this conflict. How do I turn this around without acting as if there is no problem?
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I've been back at the apartment. My parents are not supportive and there is still some care. We talked briefly and he said he was chatting only when he saw the logger installed.
As of now, I know how to make deposit units in the bank. Although he shows care only in preparing food. I'm with him all day for the next 3 weeks as we are his brother's during the day to take care of the kids. He seems sexually distant since day before yesterday.
I can't leave now and don't know how to talk about this. Things were so much natural while dating.
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