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Ok talked to dsd about it. She agrees with me that her mother is in no condition to take care of her so she will talk to grandma about the details. I told her if grandma has any ? To call me.
Married for 3 years
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me bh 33
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my ds 8
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Ok talked to dsd about it. She agrees with me that her mother is in no condition to take care of her so she will talk to grandma about the details. I told her if grandma has any ? To call me. That's great. DSD is doing a brave thing. Let us know how it goes.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Lets I know dsd is sick of her m acting like a 12 year old.
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A update it seems my ww is wanting to move out with om in the summer and thinks I am talking crap on her and om to dsd. She is also uping her antideppressent meds. Also getting a couple of 900 dollar payday loans. But is still broke. Since I carry around her new phone with her old number so I dont drive myself crazy been getting phone calls from her credit card companies.
All I have to say is wow are all ww's lack common sense like this?
Married for 3 years
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her ww 34
2 kids
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my ds 8
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All I have to say is wow are all ww's lack common sense like this? Yes.
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All I have to say is wow are all ww's lack common sense like this? Yes. Yes.
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Wow you know not to be rude to my wife but wow its just so insane its funny.
Now I am starting to understand the fog. So basically its just you give a kid 10 bucks and tell him to spend 5 at the candy store and leave them unsupervised.
Married for 3 years
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my ds 8
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Wow you know not to be rude to my wife but wow its just so insane its funny.
Now I am starting to understand the fog. So basically its just you give a kid 10 bucks and tell him to spend 5 at the candy store and leave them unsupervised. That's why we say they are aliens in their foggy state. ALIENS from another PLANET!
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Im glad I feel better because this behavior is very self destructive but its just funny. Its like spending your whole pay checks on scratch tickets hoping to hit the jack pot but if you dont you have nothing.
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Another update ww found out I was hanging out with her cousin and her family
And automaticly thinks I was sleeping with her and made herself look crazy I know her cousin is female but never had intamite convo or when we where left alone I would just go home. Dont want to add any more drama. I told her cousin I was still stupidly in love with ww. Just trying not to spread the pain
Married for 3 years
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my ds 8
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But some how I think I screwed up.
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Another update ww found out I was hanging out with her cousin and her family
And automaticly thinks I was sleeping with her and made herself look crazy I know her cousin is female but never had intamite convo or when we where left alone I would just go home. Dont want to add any more drama. I told her cousin I was still stupidly in love with ww. Just trying not to spread the pain Is this cousin married? You know MB means you must have boundaries. You're a BS in a very vulnerable state for an affair. The Harleys will say that "it's our job to protect the wrong people from making LB deposits" Why were you hanging around someone of the OS?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Just all of my friends married and have lives. I just think going to the movies once cause i was invited and you know those fb tags and thats how she found out but its not like it was immoral on my part but still in ww head it looks bad. I have my bounderies cause I dont want to live with my self doing anything emotional or sexual with any one other then with the wife. I get guilty feelings when I run over a mouse.
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my ds 8
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What about going out with your guy friends after they meet their UA time with their DWs (of course)  ?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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Well its just I dont like to get drunk often and being around drunk people when you are sober is a annoying for me. I avoid my cousins on my side ex husband cause last week I had to break up a fight. And yes my cousin had a affair on her ex and lives there. So I have no sympathy for her or would be around her.
My single friend I hang out with all the time go to the gym with and he has a bad social disorder so the gym helped him out.
My other friend is trying to get me another woman and that annoys me. I just think if I get invited to go to the movie with a bunch of friends it wasn't a bad thing then getting tagged on fb was kinda lame but I have nothing to hide.
I do hang out with my friend and his wife sometimes but too much drinking kills my liver so its only good in moderation.
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But I do understand that I am going to not hang out with her anymore. I dont want her life to have drama cause of me.
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her ww 34
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my ds 8
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I just saw a post on fb by my ww that I think is very funny cause its hypocritical and she was talking about betrayal. Wow playing that card to death.
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her ww 34
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my ds 8
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Well I'd say it's a big part of the fog. It's almost as though they want you to have an affair also so that they could justify their own. My WH was also more suspicious of me when he was living with his POSOW. Figures.
I'd say yes to not hanging out with the cousin. Keep your boundaries high. I probably wouldn't do group social events either if there are single women present, if you're still married.
Me BW: 30
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