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I would hate to be so paranoid about it. And making up stories about me cheating on her like 5 times. It hurts my feelings when I have said nothing or done anything to hurt her. I sometimes feel that she is trying to make me look like some kinda monster.
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I know its not true but I posted it here to get it off my mind.
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I think there may be problems in my ww fantasy. I just found out that her storage shed is past due. And now she is making stuff up about me like I have having a affair for all of our marriage. And it has been very confusing experiance. She wont talk to me and still avoids me I am baffled.
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Waywards lie.
BTW, how is your progress on AOs?
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Yeah I know they lie and deny even when no one believes them. But I think I am getting some progress I dropped my phone and broke the screen and it just made me feel bummed out. I would normaly be upset and mad to where I dont talk.
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I am thinking to write my ww wife a email. And would like some oppinions on what not to write. Ill write a draft when I get to a pc and let you guys look over it. If thats ok.
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Basically im sorry for losing my temper letter with I never cheated on you and be willingto prove it letter.
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Alrighty then ill work on it after work I feel I have to start the carrot part. If she is willing to talk trash about me to her cousin that I went to the movies with her and her family. I must be in her head.
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Yes, you're definitely on her mind.
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I feel I have to start the carrot part. Absolutely.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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Carrot: Friends and Enemies of Good Conversation(There's better material on the subject in the conversation chapter of His Needs, Her Needs.)
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I am glad that I can admit I do have a anger problem and i am doing my best to fix it. I just wish I can just switch it off. It sucks that after I did anger management that I realized that my whole family is angry.
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I am glad that I can admit I do have a anger problem and i am doing my best to fix it. I just wish I can just switch it off. It sucks that after I did anger management that I realized that my whole family is angry. You and me both, friend. Become very well educated with Dr. Harley's approach to anger management. Not all AM programs are created equal. I got some help from a book/program called Anger Busters (that Dr. Harley doesn't specifically endorse) that talked about a lot of the bad approaches to anger management that have been around since the 70s. As for switching it off, if you will practice relaxation as Dr. Harley recommends, and practice the rule of doing and saying NOTHING when you are frustrated, upset, or angry, other than just relaxing when you are frustrated, you will find that over time your brain grows new neural pathways that are accustomed to problem solving instead of anger (insanity) when you are frustrated. It's fantastic! Dr. Harley went through this himself many years ago. You will find that you feel angry less and less.
If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app! Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8. Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010 If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.
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There are a lot of helpful recommendations for anger in this article by Dr. Harley: http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi8122_neg.html
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Markos hasn't had an angry outburst in 10 months by using Dr. Harley's methods
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Thanks markos for the tips on controling anger. Guess it beats running around the block waving my arms in the air making funny sounds. I am almost done with love busters so ill get started on his needs her needs soon after.
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So glad you're working on your anger.
How's the letter coming along?
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Its going ok ill post it up tomorrow not in a hurry to send it till after court on 19. So I want to get it to my liking and get some criticism to improve.
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