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As of lately no. Its just that I am terrified of talking to her now. Im afaid of letting emotions taking over. Then you have your answer. Why can't you keep your emotions under control?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I know I can but I was going good and happy then I got the phone call and it felt like my stomach dropped to the floor. It was a very bad feeling. Its just so hard sometimes. I know sometimes you have to jump into the fire and today I feel fear won.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Oh yes I have been taking care of myself been going to the gym snd eating and such.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Oh yes I have been taking care of myself been going to the gym snd eating and such. How are you sleeping? When was the last time you talked to your WW?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Been sleeping like a log and last time I talked to her was in text like a couple of months ago. She tried to start a arguement and I ended it with all of our good past memories and I think it stumped her.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Been sleeping like a log and last time I talked to her was in text like a couple of months ago. She tried to start a arguement and I ended it with all of our good past memories and I think it stumped her. So are you going to go into Plan B after court next week? Have you been able to make any LB deposits? When's the last time you spoke with DSD14?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Not plan b yet I have talk to dsd monday.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Not plan b yet I have talk to dsd monday. How is she doing? Is she safe? So you're still in Plan A, correct? Any plan to make any LB deposits? How is your DS8 doing?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Im waiting after court to make sure the restraining order is off. I dont want to get a felony on my record.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Dsd is doing good but she misses me badly as I miss her a lot. I never knew I could get so attached to someone thats not blood. Ds is doing good but misses dsd and ww. My plans first of all I have to talk to her with out lb's firstly. Im just feel like im at a stalemate right now.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Im waiting after court to make sure the restraining order is off. I dont want to get a felony on my record. Very smart. Dsd is doing good but she misses me badly as I miss her a lot. I never knew I could get so attached to someone thats not blood. Ds is doing good but misses dsd and ww. My plans first of all I have to talk to her with out lb's firstly. Im just feel like im at a stalemate right now. Can you and DS meet with DSD for lunch or something?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Well we took her to a theme park a few weekends ago and she wantd to do sonething with us on fathers day but ww is acting like im having a affair and doesnt want her to hang out. So im just waiting on the word.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Well we took her to a theme park a few weekends ago and she wantd to do sonething with us on fathers day but ww is acting like im having a affair and doesnt want her to hang out. So im just waiting on the word. Waywards love to turn tables. Protect yourself. Also it wouldn't be a bad idea to have another adult go with you. A sister perhaps or an aunt or mom? When/if you do start talking to WW again have a VAR on you.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Ok good idea. Ill get a recorder. I never see ww. She is always gone leaving her daughter at home. Or takes her to posom place.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ok ww left me a threatning voice mail about a balance owed on car insurance.
She threatened to take me to small claims 400 dollars.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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I plan to pay it just hate it when I get threatened.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ok ww left me a threatning voice mail about a balance owed on car insurance.
She threatened to take me to small claims 400 dollars. Are you supposed to pay? Does she have to pay any?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Ill pay the 400 no big deal but its like I did nothing wrong and she is threatening me. I really think she is hurting for money.
Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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Ill pay the 400 no big deal but its like I did nothing wrong and she is threatening me. I really think she is hurting for money. It sure seems that way. I'm sure you're documenting all of this, correct? Save the voicemail.
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Married for 3 years
And going through a seperation.
me bh 33
her ww 34
2 kids
her dd 14
my ds 8
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