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So it would be a better idea to wait I guess.
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But I dont think she even remember it. No sheriff has delivered any papers. I guess I should wait.
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my ds 8
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But I dont think she even remember it. No sheriff has delivered any papers. I guess I should wait. So it was ordered when you were at court, correct? Maybe make her a card with the kids and add a family picture and hold on to it for later? I just don't think you should do anything that can get you in trouble with the courts.
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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I have not done the sentancing yet the lawyer mentioned it what might happen with my plea. I think you are right bh I guess I feel om dropped the ball and I feel like kicking it out of his court.
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Married for 3 years
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my ds 8
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I have not done the sentancing yet the lawyer mentioned it what might happen with my plea. I think you are right bh I guess I feel om dropped the ball and I feel like kicking it out of his court. If there wasn't the issue with the courts I think it would be an excellent Plan A idea.
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It probably would still be a bad idea if it came from the kids?
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I know it in my gut that she is starting to miss me. I just wish I could act on it now.
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Yeah pretty much 3rd party if i remember right. But I have been on my best behavior so there is a great chance the judge wont renew it.
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I took the risk and got her a card and a rose. On the card it said hope you are doing well. And she loved it!
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I will give her the letter now. It should be good if I dont upset her. I dont know I just think some how the big man upstairs is showing me these oppertunites even though I. Athiest.
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Gave dsd the letter to give ww let you guys know what she says about ir.
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I just remembered that posom likes to mooch iff of ww and also take credit fir other peoples work. I have a question in what can I do to exploit that?
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I just remembered that posom likes to mooch iff of ww and also take credit fir other peoples work. I have a question in what can I do to exploit that? Does this "mooching" have any financial repercussions on you? You aren't still paying her insurance are you?
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
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Not really. Just my dsd it effects, I try to help out dsd as much as possable and I think its unfair when dsd needs clothes or food but posom gets first pick and dsd gets scraps.
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Not really. Just my dsd it effects, I try to help out dsd as much as possable and I think its unfair when dsd needs clothes or food but posom gets first pick and dsd gets scraps. So can you buy what DSD needs and send it straight to her? Do not give WW the money. Are you still paying her insurance?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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I have been. And of course ww gets no money from me and I dont pay for her insurance. Dsd has been getting stuff from me and her grandma.
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Good news no contact order is no more since my first court date!!!
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Meaning you can now legally contact your wife? Great  What's your plan?
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I sent her a rose and a birthday card. Plus I sent her the letter. Its just hard to call or text her cause I dont have her number. Plus she is avoiding me. I still do stuff with dsd even take her to dr appointments and such. I think she is avoiding me because of guilt and she is not happy. I think from what dsd said about her rose and birthday card it did make her smile and say it was sweet and thoughtful so I am guessing she misses me.
I am at a loss on my plan by writing her and sending her a rose like once a week might be a little too much.
Last edited by Chitenator; 07/03/13 05:20 PM.
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