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skyrim #2761306 10/20/13 10:16 AM
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Thanks for the encouragement everyone and thanks for sending me the radio clips of when I was on.


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Originally Posted by skyrim
Thanks for the encouragement everyone and thanks for sending me the radio clips of when I was on.
You're welcome.

How are you doing?


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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Originally Posted by BrainHurts
How are you doing?


Some days seem a little harder than others, but I do think we are making progress. We still have a lot to learn and learning how to negotiate is an area we both struggle. Not because we don't want to or that we are being selfish, it is that sometimes neither one of us seem to be able to come up with any brainstorming solutions. None, no good ones and no bad ones, just noting and not for lack of trying. Guess with this concept being so new an fresh that we have not learned enough of it yet.


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SusieQ #2763109 10/28/13 07:59 AM
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Originally Posted by SusieQ
I think listening to today's show could be of use to you.

There is a segment about accountability. Dr Harley tells the caller who doesn't feel comfortable "controlling" her H's computer use (porn). Dr Harley tells her that if either will not agree to being accountable for this issue, he doesn't think their M will make it.

I think your situation is parallel to this. You feel uncomfortable making your H accountable to you for this behavior but if it marriage-wrecking behavior doesn't stop, it will have a very negative consequence on your M.

It has already led to dishonesty and IB on the part of your H, AOs by you, fighting, etc. Not to mention it is extremely risky behavior.... Dr Harley says people who don't take extraordinary precautions to have an affair...will have one.
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FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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