Melody, I think that is a great idea.
This has gone on way too long and has caused horrible damage to our marriage and family. We are going to have to get help to walk us through MB. My FWH just does not seem to understand the time we need to put in this.

My daughter was so angry that her father lied to her. See he told her the same thing he told me at the beginning that he did not have sex with the OW (she asked him), he swore on all sorts of peoples lives, you know how waywards are. She found out that he did have sex and had lied to her. She started having sex with any boy that asked.

A few months ago she asked me if the OW's daughters knew and I said I did not think so as few people know (I never exposed to anyone). I did talk to the OW's husband (a long time ago) and he had asked if we had told our kids and I said yes and he said that he and the OW had decided not to tell their daughters anything, only that OW just e-mailed and old BF. I found papers in my daughters room where she had written how unfair it was that her family had to go through all this and OW daughters didn't and when she turned 18 she was going to tell them. She even had found their names on FB.

Now I feel we need to get back on track of fixing us then we can fix the family. Other than that we live in a small town and no one seems to want to help us get her back home. I hear through other parents that their kids will see her, but we have not spoken to her in what feels like months. It is very hard to sleep at night not knowing where your child is and if they are OK.

HU

Your coach AND Dr Harley will try to motivate him. The coach contacts you weekly to keep you on track in your lessons. And if you run into problems, you have access to Dr Harley. The program lasts a year and is well worth the $1000 cost. That cost includes all the books, workbooks, and - I THINK - the CD set.

How old is your daughter?

Well after reading through all the options, we need to get the $945 one, where we have someone who may be able to help keep my "reluctant" FWH on track. We all know $945 may sound like a lot, but honestly having been through a divorce it is actually cheap.

FWH gets a bonus in December from his pension, I think I will have a talk with him about using part of this money to invest in helping us. Maybe make it a Christmas present, since we may not be doing any thing else for the holidays.

Thanks Melody, it was not something I would have thought of. I have bought many of the books (and read them all, many times). A few weeks ago FWH bought "Fall In Love Stay in Love". He then came in to show me. Only problem is, though it was sweet of him to have done this on his own, he has not opened it. Ir went from sitting on his night stand to in the drawer.

WE did the same thing and sort of slogged along for years in a semi recovery. Then we went to the MB seminar in Florida in 2007. Back then you had to fly to another city and stay for the weekend through a group seminar. There were about 50 people in our group. [MrW and MrsW among them!] They ID'd on the first day that independent behavior would be a problem with me in the personality test. My H also had angry outbursts which Dr Harley successfully QUELLED. With the guidance of Dr Harley and our coach, Sandy, our marriage completely and fully recovered. I can honestly say we now have a happy, passionate, romantic marriage. It really does work when you follow the steps.

When we did it, the program was $2000. And it was worth every penny. You will feel the same way. It will be the best $1000 bucks you ever spend.

QFT!