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armymama #2767192 11/21/13 03:13 AM
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So sorry armymama. hug


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I am so sorry Armymama. (((Armymama)))


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In a sense now, I am homeless. For the home, the place of refuge, solitude, love-where my husband lived-no longer exists. Joyce Carolyn Oates, A Widow's Story
armymama #2767217 11/21/13 08:41 AM
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I am very sorry to hear about the passing of your brother.

In regard to the nagging feeling you speak of, someone on the forum once told me something that was very helpful to me. The root of that feeling is fear, and this fear is an attempt to make us stumble and to deny us support and comfort. It is not a warning from the Lord. It comes from the evil one.


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I'm terribly sorry for your loss, armymama. It's so not fair when they are taken so quickly from us. Prayers for you and the family.

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{{{ armymama }}} I am so sorry for your loss and how quickly your brother passed. I know that words don't do justice, but please know that you are in our thoughts and that we care. HUGS.


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Thank you all.

And thank you, Mr. Eureka, for that timely reminder.

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D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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I am so sorry for your loss, AM...


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armymama #2770510 12/12/13 08:05 AM
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Originally Posted By: armymama
Yesterday, my brother, the last person in my immediate family as I grew up, died from pancreatic cancer. He had been diagnosed with this vicious disease less than three weeks ago.

I really miss him already. He is the one who supported me in 2009 when H went "off the deep end" and contacted OW via email and phone after 16 months of NC. My brother came to stay with me, helped me winterize the house and get the snow blower ready for use. He stayed with DS when H and I attended the MB weekend in Jan 2010. I always felt as though he had my back when no one else did. Today, H has my back, but there is always that slight nagging feeling that maybe he won't be there for me.

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AM,
I just stopped by this site to check on you and discovered your loss. I am very sorry to hear that you have lost your brother. Time, of course, will take some of the pain away; and your wonderful memories of your brother's support and love will keep him on your mind forever.

As to that nagging feeling, I know what you mean. "Broken trust is like a broken vase. You can glue it back together, but you can't ever be sure that it will always hold water." It doesn't mean that you haven't recovered your marriage or that you don't enjoy your relationship. The hard lesson from infidelity is that you can never trust again as you did before.

Have a good Christmas.

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GY,

Thanks for stopping by the forum. I was just thinking about you a few days ago. I hope all is well with you and your family.

Merry Christmas to you.

AM


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M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
armymama #2839764 01/22/15 01:43 PM
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Originally Posted By: armymama
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AM I have been reading through your thread, thanks so much for bumping it for me. I have not yet read through all of it. I'm reading a little at a time because it is so painful to read. At the same time, after knowing where you are now--so incredible--it is very very encouraging for me. I'm thinking of you often, especially when I get discouraged. Your last post telling me of your H's actions and sweet words to you was such a delight for me to read. I keep thinking of that and it just keeps me going. I also see how wonderful all of the posters were and how they were all encouraging, praying and pulling for you in your worst moments...I am so grateful for finding MB and this forum.

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I have just completed reading your thread AM. Thanks again. There is so much in there that has already been helpful to me.

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It was a long read. Glad that you found some helpful things in it.

It was terrible for quite a while. I found it hard to believe people who said there was a better future. But, they were right. Life is good now and our marriage is a big part of that.

AM


BW - 65
WH - 60
M - 35 years
D-day - 17 Apr 08
DD - 44, DS - 30, DS - 23
H broke contact 11/1/09
Back in love after the worst thing that every happened to us.
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