That's great! I wasn't aware of this!

hi guys, i just wanna know in advance of any possible consequences that i post OW's info on cheater websites. I already posted info, waiting for approval. Only facts posted. I have two kids, and custody issues i'm concerned. So i want to know what i'm doing here.

Questions:

1) Is it only OW could sue me if she wants to? Because she's not in the states, could my WH or her other friend here help her sue me? I'm just asking, and i know she might not likely have the guts to sue me, but just to cover bases.

2) what will i be facing if she sues me? i only post facts. then i guess she could apply for restraining order, court order to remove the post, fines, anything else?

3) if it goes to court, is it all the party involved need to testify, including me? just want to know.

4) anything else i need to be careful about?

Thanks a lot for all your help!

Only the OW could try to sue you. But in the US, the truth is a defense to slander, libel. If the story is true, she has no grounds for a lawsuit. You should be aware that almost ALL waywards threaten to sue when you expose them but I have never seen one follow through. The reason is because THEY have more to lose if such a case ever got to court because you would be able to subpeona their emails and other private corresponce. This would all become a record in the court of law. It would INCREASE the exposure of their affair and they don't want that.

What could she sue you for? Certainly not defamation, slander, or libel. Even if she tried, the truth is a defense. You didn't lie. She only calls attention to herself by going that route. I say let her. Better for your cause. If she DOES try to sue (because anybody can file a lawsuit) you could try and countersue (not likely that you would win either though).

If she does, she'll have to prove her case. She doesn't have a case.

What could she sue you for? There is no law against telling the truth or even opinions of others.


Again, have you done anything illegal? Did you threaten to kill her? Because if you did that would justify a restraining order. Did you expose her affair? That's called telling the truth.

Have you watched the TV Show Cheaters? They expose affairs all the time. In fact, some newspapers specialize in just exposing affairs. If it was illegal than they would all be imprisoned.


If exposing affairs was illegal, then wouldn't President Clinton have ordered Linda Tripp to be imprisoned for exposing his affair with Monica Lewinski? Think about that: If the President of the USA, or a high ranking military General can't stop affair exposure then why on earth do you suspect that somebody 10,000 miles away in a foreign country will fly here, file a lawsuit against you and have you prosecuted for telling the truth?


I think you need to focus on not being so afraid of telling the truth and exposing bad behavior.

If that hoe threatens to sue you, I would encourage her to do so!

OW: I am going to sue you for putting that on the internet!!

xpbrain: I would encourage you to do so because we could get all your emails, phone records and private correspondence subpoenaed into court. In the US the truth is a defense to libel. I would be delighted to get the truth out in the open in a court of law in the US and made a matter of record.

If you really want to rile her feathers, write a letter to her family members, especially the older ones (in Chinese...have a student do it for you):

I wish to inform you that XXXXX has been having sleeping in her bed with my husband.
She dishonors my family and shows disrespect to my marriage.
I told everyone I know about this and they ask me, "Are all women in China like this?"
I answer, "I do not know. But she brings great shame and dishonor to her family and people."
I have posted her picture on Cheaterville. You can read about her here: (web address).

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If she is from a rural area, send a copy of it to the local government official also....and a few neighbors.

I just spewed Pepsi all over my screen!!

thank you guys! i only stated facts, no threatening to kill her or anything stupid. but description of my post at cheaterville got deleted during approval process. Probably because i also translated the description into Chinese for them to read. also might because i stated which city she lives in right now.

Good job xp!!!

They usually let you post cities.
My post was initially deleted too; I think most people have to submit a couple times before its approved.

so make it invisible and submit a new one?

i know this is my best chance of kill the affair right now. if this A drags on, neither WH or I would have any love to each other. Now I think we have each other, esp my WH wishes to divorce me asap, not even care about the kids anymore. but after go through all these, like posting on the internet, which might seem very extreme to others, will it make WH get scared of me and never want to reconcile? I know A will ruin marriage, not exposing it. but just WH's reaction right now gives me little hope.

I think i saw your post on Cheaterville but it says she lives in Hawaii? I thought she was in China?

Is that your post? a picture of her with the heading "she slept with my husband when I was pregnant"?

yeah, that's the one. they deleted my description.

there is no choice of china, other than us, canada, uk and another country.

xpbrain, when they post it on the 2nd site, I would start emailing the links around to the OW, your H and as many contacts of the OW as possible.

sent OW and contacts the link. she's like i already give up why r u still doing all this out of hate and revenge? your husband will get crazy because of what you did, and you guys can never get reconciled. she's still worry so much about my WH and my relationship....

feel exhausted.

The homewrecker is just sooo "concerned" about your marriage!

Right?

She's so worried exposure is going to make your WH crazy? Waywards aren't very smart are they?