Hey...all is fair in love and war.

I keep thinking about some of the stuff she has said like, why are you trying to ruin his life! ruin his life, what about ours???

She is defending him because she is in love with him.
My wife had an affair with a felon that was imprisoned for 9 years for trying to kill his own 3 yr old daughter!
When I uncovered his criminal record, she was furious that I told others (family) about it...including our children!
She still tells them (she lives with him now) that he's a "nice guy!"

exactly,

this is why you need to kick the OM out of your sandbox!

Now thats messed up, and unreal, are you kidding me???

I have to pay this guy a visit.. I need all the resources to make sure he is kicked out of our lives. Give me every idea MB has..

No, I'm not kidding.
You'll often see posters write that your wife is "in the fog."

The definition of "the fog," as explained by Dr. Harley is "irrational thinking."
As a law enforcement officer, you probably encounter people that make you scratch your head. My high school best friend worked in prisons and later a county jail for years, and he told me that he knew many of the people in jail...because they were repeat offenders. Why do they do that?

Well, you can have someone completely law abiding and stable...that will cash in the pension, run off with the 20 year old secretary into the sunset with the convertible he just bought with his life savings....

....and this same individual will crawl back a few months later. He was thinking irrationally! And people in affairs behave like a drug addict! That's why Harley treats them like addicts and their affair partners as a drug of choice..because they will do ANYTHING to get a fix!

I have to get her out of this fog.. I need everyones ideas so I can get her to withdraw and get cleaned.

I'm glad i'm here, I need as much input and ideas to get her out of this mess, I know mel predicts she will be back home. so I have to make sure I don't love bust and fill her love banks and then get rid of the drug..

It would be a great idea to post him on cheaterville. That is another way you can run this jerk off. These postings on these cheater websites drive the cheaters CRAZY.

how would he know he's on the site?? do i tell him..

Call him up at work and ask him lots of questions about the Checkmate DNA kit you bought, he is a pharmacist and should be able to answer some questions. Then drop a line 'oh yeah, my wife is having an affair with a pharmacist".

Thats a great idea, thats awesome...see that DNA thing was asked by my wife because that got back to her that I had DNA, so I'm sure he knows about it also.

Do you have his photo?

You would email or text him a link. But you need a photo. Do you have one? Does he have a page on linkedin?

I can get one, he has some on the internet..why now were talking, some good ideas..

Cheaterville will email a link to his post to any email address you ask them to. There is a tool on the website to "email cheater report."

if we can just keep him posting his entire shift we can keep him from giving tickets to nice ladies!

he has a page on linkdn

I mentioned that as a resource to find his photo for cheaterville.com but it sounds like you already found his pic. I would go to his linkedin page if you can and copy the names of his business contacts. If you cant access them, then see if you can get to his "skills and endorsements" section and see if he has endorsements. Make a note of the people who endorsed him because they are likely his closest friends or colleagues. See if you can find their facebook pages so you can also send them a link to cheaterville.com/