Why were you fired from your job?

Who all have you exposed this to? Have you told your children? What are their ages?

My children are 11 and 7. I was fired for performance issues. I would rather not explain this to my children. I will keep them as innocent as I can through as much of this as I can. They understand that mom and dad can't live with each other anymore.

I have told all of her family and mine. her friends and mine. Boyfriend has blocked me from communication but he knows how I feel.

Please listen to the clips in here and read the information.
Exposing to Children

Have you read the Exposure thread?

How does lying to them about the source of tension in their lives "keep them innocent?" It only keeps them vulnerable and confused. Kids are not stupid. They can handle the truth. What they can't handle are lies. If you don't tell them the truth, your wife will tell them lies...........about you. Why leave them vulnerable to that? How can they possibly understand why you can't live together if you don't explain why? Would you understand why if you were never given the reasons?

Man,
Were you the one I remember from the radio show?

If so, you should email Dr. Harley and Joyce for followup help. Meanwhile, follow the advice you are getting here.

Is this your show?
Radio Clip of ManKeepingHisFam's Show

Yes that was me... I think I will call and get a return on this.

Good idea. Let us know when you hear back.

I haven't accessed the email that I was replying to Dr. Harley for quiet sometime. It has been locked out. I am getting it taken care of but in the mean time...

I feel like I am losing my mind! My heart is constantly aching and I see my wife's image in my children's eyes. I can't eat and I dream of her. If nothing else this program made me fall deeply in love with her and I am left with all the ache. She misses her kids and she is completely pissed at me for taking them. She is in war mode right now and she will do anything and everything to get her kids back but come home to me. She is still with him and refuses to talk to me. She has even gone as far as to tell people that I was abusing her. I understand why she has gotten the way she is! We lost a child this time of the year 4 years ago. but the months leading up till now, our relationship was perfect. She spoke to me regularly. We made love regularly. We hung out all the time. It was like we were dating again. She even told me without being asked that she was finally happy with me again. I knew the minute things started to change and that I was losing her again about a month ago. I thought it was because of her depression and this time of year. I don't know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I just sent this to everyone who's our mutual friends list (87)

Dear friends and family,

I am writing you this message because you are an important person in the lives of ****** and I. As some of you know, ***** has recently asked me for a separation, which has shattered my heart. To my shock, I am saddened to have discovered that the reason is because she has been carrying on an affair with a man from the bar named ***** **** who resides in ********* . The purpose of the separation is so that she can carry on her affair without my interference.

She refuses to end the affair. I want our marriage to recover from this affair. If you have any influence on my babe, please do what you can to get her to stop this dangerous affair. I want to stay married, but the affair must end.

As our friends and family, I am asking that you use your influence with ****** to persuade her to end her affair and try to work on our marriage. Our marriage can be salvaged if she would only end the affair. Please support her in doing the right thing. Please support our marriage.

I would so appreciate your support and prayers.

Warmest regards,

good. now make sure you expose to OM side of family also

make sure you have downloaded his list of facebook friends before he closes his account

I can't he blocked me days before I found out. Some of her friends and family are not happy with me about spreading our family business all over facebook. These were all private messages.

I think I have messed up! Most of them are telling me that that was not a good idea and this will push her farther away!

Are her friends and family clinical psychologists with 40 years of experience recovering marriages from affairs?

I am guessing no.

Although they may have great intentions, that does not mean they know how to fight an affair or recover a marriage.

Thank you for the calming words.

This is what I wrote Dr.H
Dr Harley and Joyce,

It pains me to tell you that things have not turned out well between my wife and I. In the last 7 months I thought things were going so great and we had the perfect marriage. She was loving, compassionate, and meet my needs. I thought I was doing a great job on hers as well. I was wrong. She left me last Monday to be with another man after I found her in bed with him. I have since taken our 2 children to stay with my father in NC where I can be free from her family�s influences. I still love this woman very much! But she tells me time and time again that it is over and she wants a divorce. I am sad to think that these children will have to go through this mess. I messed up on my sobriety. I did not carry through with it and my wife continued to go to the bar. This man we spoke of a while back is the culprit� Not the good looking guy that was trying to get with her cousin, but the bouncer of the bar. She would let him take her home after too much drinking. Her mother had a big hand in keeping this affair from me. In fact I have evidence of her knowing and warning her when I was close to finding out. I really don�t know what to do! I have been in the forums under the ManKeepingHisFamily tag name for quite some time. She is making very serious accusations at me via texts and refuses to talk with me. I have read over the exposure thread and exposed her to her family and friends via facebook. I have gotten some backlash from this by her friends but some are willing to lend a hand. My family is through with her and would rather see her off a long peer. It took me 3 months to get her back the last time.

Your friend, ***EDIT***

A reminder not to post personal details on the forum. Be cyber safe.

Sir, you need to be creative to battle this.
Create a second facebook account and login and get the boyfriends list of friends and family so you can expose to them asap.