So why would he continue to do this behavior if he wasn't getting anything out of it??? That's what I ask him. Btw about a year ago I noticed he had bumps on his penis. Warts?? He told me it was from his last GF, but that was 4 years ago??? I can't believe that it takes that long for them to come out??? I haven't noticed anything on me though.
He's getting something out of it, even if it's not something physical. Which I doubt. Men are goal oriented. If I message someone about having sex, I want to go have sex. I wouldn't waste my time trying to get something I didn't want. Men don't work that way.
Probably HPV. You may not notice signs yourself but it can cause cervical cancer in females. Why not both have tests done?
I work and he takes care with the children.
He is a child molester. You can bet on it.
My first thought too...
Just being sketchy with the phone means he is doing something he *knows* you would not agree with, but is doing it anyways. He just wishes to avoid your reactions. It's easier for him to do what he wants that way. Plus he is getting so much sex from you, why would he want to ruin a good thing?
Addicted to unfulfilling sexual acts and fantasies with other people. Even if this is an addiction, it's not a healthy one.
Lies. If there is nothing to hide he should be hiding nothing.
If I've learned anything here, it's that secrecy is the breeding ground for bad things to happen. If after four years he won't respect you enough to be open with his activity or even show a desire to change it........ yeah.
Expression of wanting to ramp up the counseling just sounds like a way to make you be quiet and give him more sex.
On a more kind note, I know it has to be rough feeling stuck and being financially dependent on such a person. There has to be help out there or a way to have your children looked after. I don't mean by such a sexually driven person either, I wouldn't let a child anywhere near a person with that type of personality/addiction.