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Have you exposed to WW’s father?
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Have you exposed to WW’s father? Yes I have
10 years married. Wife is having an affair.
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Have you exposed to WW’s father? Yes I have Will her father and sister support you and put pressure on her?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Have you exposed to WW’s father? Yes I have Will her father and sister support you and put pressure on her? Yes I believe her family has talked to her
10 years married. Wife is having an affair.
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Question. Yesterday we joked around and I went to the store to get breakfast and medicine. I surprised her with Girl Scout cookies. She called me to joke about eating the cookies instead of the breakfast. Weird positive but she sent me a funny meme for the first time in awhile. Then last night got real quiet and stopped texting me. I let it go and didn’t push anything. This morning she exploded. Said I ruined any chance of saving our marriage (I didn’t feel I had any chance before this). Said I was trying to be the victim. Felt like she would be the cheating wife who’s husband took her back. That she would never come back. Is this normal? I’m not being confrontational at all with her. What did I do?
10 years married. Wife is having an affair.
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Ok, so you are not reading our posts? 
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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This morning she exploded. Said I ruined any chance of saving our marriage (I didn’t feel I had any chance before this). Said I was trying to be the victim. Felt like she would be the cheating wife who’s husband took her back. That she would never come back. Is this normal? I’m not being confrontational at all with her. What did I do?
? Your wife is high on the addiction of an affair. You need to view her the same as you would a falling down drunk. Would you hang on every word of a falling down drunk? Your wife is doing everything in her power to protect the object of her addiction, so when you interfere with her affair, you infuriate her. But we can't help you if you ignore our posts. I have posted several things to you and there is no response.
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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The greatest concern in this situation is having your daughters exposed to a sexual predator. Sexual predators will actually target women with daughters for this reason. You MUST do everything to ensure they are never exposed to this man. Your wife will likely coach the girls to lie about seeing this man so you can't rely on her to protect them. You are ALL they have. I apologize for not responding. Yes I am contacting a lawyer tomorrow and documenting and sending everything I can. I am going to do what I can to protect my children.
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Have you found the OM’s XBW and exposed to her? How about his parents? Have you exposed to them?
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Here’s a good read and learning thread. wifesivorcing’s thread
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Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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Have you found the OM’s XBW and exposed to her? How about his parents? Have you exposed to them? I’m going to their house tomorrow. I’m at work today. Scared 😟 Have not found OMs XBW
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Thank you for this! I’m in the middle of reading the entire thing. It’s like a prewritten script for what I’m hearing and seeing from my WW. Almost cried when it started turning around.
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My WW did not go to church today. Said the girls were upset. Told her I’m sorry girls couldn’t go and that affairs in church are ugly.
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Have you found the OM’s XBW and exposed to her? How about his parents? Have you exposed to them? I’m going to their house tomorrow. I’m at work today. Scared 😟 Have not found OMs XBW Good that you will be doing this. Keep us updated.
FWW/BW (me)
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2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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My WW did not go to church today. Said the girls were upset. Told her I’m sorry girls couldn’t go and that affairs in church are ugly. What was her response if any?
FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.
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My WW did not go to church today. Said the girls were upset. Told her I’m sorry girls couldn’t go and that affairs in church are ugly. What was her response if any? We didn’t text for a few hours after that. The next text was me asking her what she was doing tonight
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I know, and after reading some stories here, her plan was to keep this secret until after the divorce was final. Then come out a few weeks or months after as a couple. It would been amazing and supported by the church. She would have left me and my girls as the only one knowing the truth. The girls would have to keep that secret for the rest of their lives.
10 years married. Wife is having an affair.
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Are your girls at home with you? Or are they still exposed to this man? Have you explained to them that the OM is a sexual predator?
"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101
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Are your girls at home with you? Or are they still exposed to this man? Have you explained to them that the OM is a sexual predator? They are with WW today. Im at work for 24 hours unfortunately. They were informed that he is dangerous and touched a child inappropriately and were to tell me if he was ever around them .
10 years married. Wife is having an affair.
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