I guess I can add two cents here...<P>I just responded to my stbx's papers through an attorney and read a copy of the letter he sent her. Now I am trying to breathe.<P>My W was probably addicted to her running. She competed in 50K and 50 milers around the west. It was awsome to watch, but for the first five years of our marriage, I counted on one hand the number of times we slept in on Saturday morning, together. 'Course, the showers after the work out was, well....
All in all, there is a self-centeredness there that was not conquerable.<P>So, I have had the "hard body" woman already. Don't think that I will go overboard the other way, folks, but when I am downtown, especially during lunch time, I look at women and think that the personality of this woman, or that woman, would be more important than the tightness of her sweater. (Though, I wouldn't be blind to the latter.)
Granted, I should also try to care for myself as much as I would like her to care for herself.<P>I often felt that there is something in each woman that deserved to be appreciated by someone, and for her to be loved for it. <P>And as for make up, any wife is beautiful first thing in the morning, whether she thinks so or not.<P>Being asked out...<P>I just recently told a younger woman who works for one of our customers that I don't have any energy to try and persue anyone right now, but that I may let myself be persued instead. It was not a veiled hint to her, I just indicated that I could NOT deal with the rejections right now.<P>Anyway, it sort of fits with my new dietary adjustment...No fat after 5pm. That is, unless a woman asks me to dinner. (A coworker rolled on the floor laughing when she heard me say that. She said I'm not going to be eating for a looonng time.)<P>Eyes do it for me first, then the lips. There is just something about the mouth of Burnadette Peters!!<P>Manners: I would open the car door for my girlfriend in high school when I took her home. Her mother thought it was so nice that I did that. Then the girlfriend informed her mother that the door handle inside did not work. (Well, for a while, anyway, I looked impressive.)<P>Great thread!!<P>rrunrr.<P>I have the time but not the money for the AZ trip.
<P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Almost anything can be undone or forgiven.<P>Never take trust for granted.