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ok, stbxh and I are now having debate on the term of abandonment, and I want to be clear headed with my response.
When we have been married for 15 years and have 8 children together...then one person leaves the state (stbxh that is ) and since Mar 3, 2003 has given a total of $500 in "child support" with note attached to pay his portion of the bills too. Does it or does it not show abandonment of his family and responsibilities.......just checking????????? would like your definitions please....
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oh yes, and has only seen his children once since he left.....and crushed them yet again as he drove away....
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Abadonment...
Marriage is a joint contract between a man and a woman to share assets: monetary, physical, and debt. As the marriage goes along, joint assets are created for which you are both equally responsible:
- Loans
- Accounts
- Credit
- Children
Abandonment is when one party walks away from any and/or all of these responsibilities without making arrangements to cover their half of the responsibility. They "abandon" their contractual obligation.
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a·ban·don (P) Pronunciation Key (-bndn)
tr.v. a·ban·doned, a·ban·don·ing, a·ban·dons
To withdraw one's support or help from, especially in spite of duty, allegiance, or responsibility; desert: abandon a friend in trouble.
To give up by leaving or ceasing to operate or inhabit, especially as a result of danger or other impending threat: abandoned the ship.
To surrender one's claim to, right to, or interest in; give up entirely. See Synonyms at relinquish.
To cease trying to continue; desist from: abandoned the search for the missing hiker.
To yield (oneself) completely, as to emotion.
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Mx8 - I wonder if you were asking for the "legal" definition of abandonment. If so, check out the WWW.divorcesource.com website. Here is a link directly to their "abandonment" page Abandonment main article This site also has state-specific info which you may want to check into. But I do want to say one thing - this is all VERY fresh and new to you, and I would not do anything in haste. Work on YOU and the kids right now.
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No that does not constitute abandonment. Usually most states require he leave for a period of 1 year and not pay anything. Not to mention you have already filed for divorce. You know where he is as well. He has sent some money. Nope, not abandonment - legally anyway.
Get a temporary order for support until your case goes to court.
<small>[ April 23, 2003, 11:00 PM: Message edited by: tewjtm ]</small>
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