I'm already a little concerned about this part of the plan.


If that means you're having any second thoughts about your decision to tell your sons, I just want to say that I believe you did the right thing... and that you are handling it with tremendous grace. Of course they will be torn, and will want to believe the best about their mom. They love her. But they deserve to know what is really happening in their lives. And they will eventually be able to see it for themselves. Whatever happens now with your marriage, just please know that you did right by your sons. Keep telling them the truth, and tell they WHY you're telling them.

As for your wife's family and all their secrets... personally, I'd concentrate on my own situation for now. JMO.


"I require more from my spouse than behaving well in order to avoid pain." (guess who)