Ok...please remind me again why it was a good idea to expose to my sons.

I am being laid out as a terrible Dad because I would bring the kids into the middle of it. "It doesn't matter what the adults have done, the kids should not have to be exposed".

I know this is all defensive and fog talk... but I still feel crappy. All of her allies are against me on this one... even if I had a chance to get support against the affair, they see me as being wrong now.

My W said she will never forgive me for telling them. I know it's babble. but...

My son did tell me yesterday that he was glad he knew. before knowing he had so many questions that were not answered. now he can understand why we are separating.

I just said that I hope he still loves his Mom.. he said yes... that they are close and always will love her.


BH (Me) - 38
WW - 36
Married - 16 years
2 children - 10,12
DD1 - 05/30/05 - EA suspected, W wanted space
DD2 - 07/01/05 - EA/PA discovered & confronted WW
DD3 - 07/21/05 - Further contact discovered and now ended.
11/07/05 - exposed to OMW...
07/01/07 - separated to give "space". recovery was not progressing.
09/04/07 - DDAY all over... new OM.

Patience with God is Faith.
Patience with myself is Hope.
Patience with others is Love.