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PS:

Mikey's moving to the Divorce Board

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You left this board too soon!


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TheRoad:

I don't think so.

I think he should head over to the Divorce board.

I don't see an ounce of forgiveness in him, and I think he is a bad influence on his children.

If my soon to be 16 year old son called me and told me he was having a wild party at the house while I was gone, he WOULD BE TOAST when I returned. And my Betrayed spouse would have TOASTED him as well, it DOESN"T matter WHAT excuse he used.

Mike just laughed and told his son to keep calling back with more updates.

Yes, she had an affair, but Mike is doing ?????

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Hey Mike! shocked I can NOT believe this! And yeah, I remember you from "back in the day" (2/3/99 was my D-day) so I hope you remember me too. I'll post to ya on the Divorcing/Divorce thread. Mike, you know me. You know I believe in marriage and I believe in MB, and I will never counsel anyone to divorce until every option has been considered, but I can also REALLY understand where you're coming from and I want to give you a word of advice from someone who has been through a divorce. Some of the things you are doing right now are decisions based on a reaction to your feelings..and whilst that is 100% understandable, it is not the most legally WISE decision. So will you do me a favor? I promise I understand how you feel (sadly) and I have been through the legal landmines. I would encourage you to consider the REMOTE possibility of reconciling but if that is impossible, I understand that too and would love to give you some advise on how to negotiate the legal system with some dignity and some wisdom. Okay? For just tonight only please just get through the night and sort of leave her alone to her own misery. See you over in Divorcing/Divorced and if you wouldn't mind may I give you a hug from a fellow "oldie"?

I am SO SORRY you're here!


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Thanks a lot, FH. Of course I remember you!

However, I think Div is becoming the board for me. I don't think I could ever get past this gross betrayal.

Frankly, three of her colest friends and relatives have told me they think something neurological is going on.

PS: these boards have become a cesspool. It really is horrible given the role they play or have played in people's lives.

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Originally Posted by Mike_C2
PS: these boards have become a cesspool. It really is horrible given the role they play or have played in people's lives.

I posted to you - in sincerity - hoping to help you - because I understand what you are going through - it's an awful experience

I have been reading your posts - forum to forum - seeing if there was anything helpful I might add (that had not already been said by someone else)

I did not expect a "thank you"
I did not expect a response
I did not expect to be characterized as part of a "cesspool"

I sincerely wish you the best and bid you adieu

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WOW crazy


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I must say... ditto.

I am truly sorry you are going through this pain. I wanted to help but realize that my time here does not even come close to yours, plus I'm probably the wrong gender to be able to offer you much help at the moment, especially in your pain.

I know you are in pain and so don't want to turn this into being about me... but yes, what pep said. I know this board has ups and downs, and sometimes the downs are quite bad and I'm upset about that too, but... blanket statements about cesspools? When the majority of us were saying things in total agreement to what K and JL were saying? In your pain, it seems you are napalming everything around you...

I'm not saying this as well as pep. I also sincerely wish you the best and bid you adieu.


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MikeC2, you do realize that with your last comment you're simply contributing to the "cess". (Is that even a word?)

I saw plenty of posters (jayne, faithfulwifeCJ, FH, greengables and others) giving you good advice, some of it tinged with the *mildest* of criticism. Labeling the entire forum strikes me as reactive, rather than thoughtful.

Best of luck to you in your recovery.

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Originally Posted by Mike C2
Hi,

I never thought I'd be making this post.

My wife as been distant. Jiust when through her email and found love notes with a co-worker.

I'm sitting her shaking.

She is on her way home, probably/definitely from being with him.

I plan on sitting her down and confronting her.

I read the rules of confrontation.

any advice? Do this immediately?
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