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Originally Posted by bestfriend439
Oh, the dating scene, how I love and hate you all at the same time!!!

Hey BF!

I know what you mean by this statement!! grin

Hang in there though. You are a 'good catch' and somebody is going to realize that before too long.

As for your comments on Match....try not to be so cynical! I am certain that you are right about there being guys on there that are behaving that way but there are also genuine guys on there that are really looking for a relationship. Don't 'throw the baby out with the bathwater'.

Just keep being good to yourself, staying dark with WXH and good things will come your way.

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Oh, the dating scene, how I love and hate you all at the same time!!!

No official date on Thursday, but we hung out later in the evening. We continued to communicate and I thought we had plans Sunday, but apparently not.

I think the phrase is: 'he's just not that in to you!"


Was there a communication problem? Or is he just impolite and has no regard for other's feelings? If it's the later, good riddens.

Harley says dating is a numbers game, if you're looking to hook up with a longer term partner. I've noticed that when I think that thought I cringe, and I know why. Because there are a-holes out there and I don't feel like fishing through them. At least not now, it might be kinda fun later. In fact, I'm sure I'll have some great times.

I have to believe there are decent, honest, fun, caring guys out there, because we have some here. I haven't given up hope.

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Life lesson for me: just as in my marriage, I seem to like the other person more than they like me!


A little introspection might dig up something there. Could be interesting, and freeing.

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If I am interested in someone, I am really interested right away. If I am not interested, I am just not.

Are you frustrated that you're not in a relationship? I only ask because of the "right away" ending.

I've decided that I'm just going to have an affair with myself until I can have one with someone else. Why not? My husband is. sick




I've decided I'd rather hang out in socials settings where I can interact with other people and not date until I've already had the chance to see a little bit of their personality. That'll probably be the norm for what I choose when I'm ready.

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D-yr fall 06-fall 07
Separated 10/2010
Him-several affairs, last one 3/2011
Divorced filed 3/2011, final 3/2012

Formerly "Mopey".
http://forum.marriagebuilders.com/ubbt/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2013149&page=1

After a 4 yr FR, it became CLEAR to me of what you can look for in a FR. And that is the absence of POJA, and/or if your spouse tramples on your boundaries. If someone is not willing to do POJA with you, and they don't respect your boundaries, imo, the relationship is doomed.
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Just curious - are your WxH and OW still together?

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