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I must have a sick sense of humor. Nothing gets me more motivated than seeing EXPOSURE works it magic. I just love to hear the BS and how EXPOSURE literally blows up everything.

I can get through the entire day on an EXPOSURE HIGH!!!

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Originally Posted By: PrayIncessantly
I must have a sick sense of humor. Nothing gets me more motivated than seeing EXPOSURE works it magic. I just love to hear the BS and how EXPOSURE literally blows up everything.

I can get through the entire day on an EXPOSURE HIGH!!!


Me too!

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Same here! laugh


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Originally Posted By: PrayIncessantly
I must have a sick sense of humor. Nothing gets me more motivated than seeing EXPOSURE works it magic. I just love to hear the BS and how EXPOSURE literally blows up everything.

I can get through the entire day on an EXPOSURE HIGH!!!
I don't know that it's humor, necessarily, that I feel when I read about a good exposure. I feel a sense of satisfaction. It's a good feeling - like you studied hard for a tough test and you aced it. I want to hug the poster and high five him/her!


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you should also take the satisfaction that you all did a good job in guiding people through what logically they cannot comprehend and goes against what they are feeling. feeling motivated by helping others is a great thing. thank you to all that plug away at what can seem like a lost cause!


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...take the satisfaction that you all did a good job...feeling motivated by helping others is a great thing

And, of course, there is also the baser satisfaction explained in these lyrics from the musical Chicago:

I don't care for drivin' Packard cars
Or smoking Long Buck Cigars
No, no, not me
All I care about is
Doin' the guy in
Who's pickin, on you
Twistin' the wrist
That's turnin' the screw
All I care about is love!

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And, of course, there is also the baser satisfaction explained in these lyrics from the musical Chicago:


Mine is a higher satisfaction along these lines:

When justice is done, it brings joy to the righteous but terror to evildoers. Proverbs 21:15


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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I call it wielding my
"Sword of Righteous Admonishment"!

My bride does not always see it
in such noble terms! (And I'm
not blonde!)

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Nice skirt ya got there, Neverguessed! rotflmao


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

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Nice skirt ya got there, Neverguessed!

Yeah, I'm lucky to have the legs to make it look GOOD, not simply trashy!

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"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Originally Posted By: MelodyLane
rotflmao


OMG. I can't stop laffing, and HIDING. That is both funny AND scary.

I was actually coming here to rant a bit. Why is it that a newer poster, doesn't have a thread, or a siggy? How am I supposed to know who they are and where they are coming from? I need to go back and piece together a story from 200+ posts in 4 months? Lemme know who you are, at least through a siggy.


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SOME THREADS GRRRRRR

It's like watching a trainwreck. I'm in Plan A, but I'm not doing any of the things right and I am wondering why oh why isn't it working. I am letting my WS drive my marriage right into the ditch and I want you all to help me fix it. When I am off board, I am doing EVERYTHING that you guys advised me NOT to do. WHY OH WHY ISN'T IT WORKING?

ARGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

Guess I'm full o'rants tonight. Maybe I need to go to bed. wink


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Praying for walls and doors. Thanx MM

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Beware. They come to do harm.
rotflmao That looks like those little Wishniks I collected when I was a kid! Well, they're not called that anymore - they're just called trolls now.

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Hey, how did you get the photo of H's skank?

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Beware. They come to do harm.
rotflmao That looks like those little Wishniks I collected when I was a kid! Well, they're not called that anymore - they're just called trolls now.

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*ahem*


Treasure trolls.


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I'm gonna throw out my rant first thing today.

I don't ask questions because I'm idly curious. I ask questions to get a sense of the poster's sitch so I can help them. Yet, some of my questions totally ignored. Repeatedly.

Please answer the questions, people!


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Originally Posted By: maritalbliss
I'm gonna throw out my rant first thing today.

I don't ask questions because I'm idly curious. I ask questions to get a sense of the poster's sitch so I can help them. Yet, some of my questions totally ignored. Repeatedly.

Please answer the questions, people!


Yes. I'm mildly annoyed to have my questions ignored, but even more affected to see posters shoot themselves in the foot by ignoring good advice/questions. If they would go through their threads and systematically answer each question asked (and often realize that a "no" answer indicates an important step they haven't taken and part of the reason why Marriage Builders is not working for them), they would be in such a better situation.

I think we can help each other by reinforcing to these posters the importance of answering each other's questions, i.e., "OP, did you see maritalbliss's questions? I think it would be very helpful for you to answer those." Moving on and escalating to "OP, I don't think we can help you. maritalbliss has asked you some very important questions, and three other posters have suggested that you answer them, but you've ignored us. We can't help you if you don't get us the answers we need. You are being given very important advice which you are ignoring. This is part of why things are not working out for you."


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Time and the healing of wounds have a strange way of making you look at things from a differnt perpective.

After I re-read my threads... and read several others... I was thinking. (Can you smell the rubber burning? LOL) laugh I could see the frustration of some of the vets as they were trying to help me. I can see that same frustration in several of the Newbie threads now.

I was thinking about the things I did wrong and the things I did right executing my plan A and my plan B. It got me thinking... how can I relate that to other people on the board so they can learn from my mistakes?

Bottom line: I was thinking about starting a thread that everyone could contribute to, stating things theyve done (or things that other have done) right and wrong in executing plan A and B.

Help for newbies... Learn from our mistakes... what not to do... Don't do that ~ Do this...

Whaddya think? Any brainstorming ideas for a title or a post?


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