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Advice above is better than what I just edited.

Don't try to reason with him, it will get you nowhere (try reasoning with a drunk).

Get a VAR or use the recording app on your phone so you can record conversations (and outbursts!) so he cannot spin the story. Do not try to reason, don't ask for "the truth", he will not tell you.

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Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.



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Being that I found out an hour ago, H was sitting in a parking lot at a truck stop,(I FaceTimed him to see where he was, took 8 times calling before he answered),

I so wished I had gotten the VAR into his truck before today.

I now have worries about "lot lizards".

Which I admitted in a text to him after he hung up on me (bc I was told I was being "accusing again").

Yes, I should've kept quiet. Hard for me bc I'm an avid communicator & have been stonewalled by H for too many years.


SOOO...I have his debit card for groceries. Going tomorrow.

Will get cash back at Walmart to pay cash just for a VAR. Will check what Walmart has,if not, there's an electronics store near there.

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Read it a few hours ago.

Thank you.

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Originally Posted by MamaWolf2
Being that I found out an hour ago, H was sitting in a parking lot at a truck stop,(I FaceTimed him to see where he was, took 8 times calling before he answered),

I so wished I had gotten the VAR into his truck before today.

I now have worries about "lot lizards".

Which I admitted in a text to him after he hung up on me (bc I was told I was being "accusing again").

Yes, I should've kept quiet. Hard for me bc I'm an avid communicator & have been stonewalled by H for too many years.


SOOO...I have his debit card for groceries. Going tomorrow.

Will get cash back at Walmart to pay cash just for a VAR. Will check what Walmart has,if not, there's an electronics store near there.


This is not the advice we gave you after your last post. We advised that you call the police, get a restraining order and change the locks.

Are you reading our posts?


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Originally Posted by MamaWolf2
Read it a few hours ago.

Thank you.


My wife put all that together - it was the strategy she followed.


If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

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In the initial post:

Originally Posted by MamaWolf2
Separated in 03 for 4 months due to domestic violence (on his part.


"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101


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Do you want us to tell you when you are not following the plan that works?


If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 17 years, who is a beautiful angel.
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You wont get the law involved because you wont subject your children to that, yet you will subject your children to this crazy fighting and violent angry outbursts??? I dont understand this reasoning.

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