The fault in your logic, dsd, is that you are assuming there is some sort of commitment that was made between the two people. But what was that commitment in a living together situation? There really is no way to know. All I know is that they committed to living together. But, for how long and what were the terms of that commitment?

If they agreed to be in a mutually exclusive relationship for the duration in which they chose to live together, then yes, it is cheating, but as Pepperband stated, it is cheating, not adultery.

This was the most common dictionary definition of adultery that I was able to find:
NOUN:
pl. a�dul�ter�ies
Voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and a partner other than the lawful spouse.

In this case, there was no lawful spouse, therefore there was no adultery. There may have been cheating, depending on the terms of the living together relationship, but there wasn't adultery.

Either way it is a pretty crappy way to treat someone (cheating or adultery).

I dont think this guy would be here if his companion stated to him I will live with you and be committed and use your income untill I deside I dont want too and not tell you anything any different. But dont be hurt because I done it my way without discuusing it with you and your feeling or thoughts dont matter!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't think anyone here is trying to minimize his pain. I think people are just pointing out that MB principles may not be terribly effective in this situation, since there was no marriage. I never said there wasn't a commitment, but there may not have been a lifelong commitment, as there would have been in a marriage.

When living together, it's fornication, and cheating on your fornication partner is well...fornication and that fornication is only considered cheating when there is an agreement to be exclusive fornication partners.

It's only adultery when one partner or both is married.

What has been left out is was there some sort of symbol of agreement between the two fornication partners?

Writer not meaning any disrepect to you or anyone else but You and your H had that life long commitment their would have been in a marriage and there was still cheating,lies and what not.It comes done to the morals of the person marriage or not!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One things is for certain.

The OP isn't an OP at all.

They aren't really in the wrong here (unless they happen to be married themselves <psu...I see you>)

He/she is merely unwanted competition.

Mr. W

p.s.- I've been cheated upon and ceremoniously dumped by a long-term girlfriend for another guy but such "pain" was incomparable to my wife's adultery. To me, it's an accepted risk you when you put yourself out there in the dating world. It's part of the bargain that EITHER of you can rightly leave at any moment. Dating-at-will relationship. Cheating sucks...but few of us have ever escaped either being cheated upon and/or cheating when dating. Again, an assumed risk. In marriage (religious or otherwise), it's NOT supposed to be.

I don't think anything is going to be effective. Didn't she MARRY this other guy? If so, he needs to respect her marriage and leave her be.

Can I repeat this for you: The BETRAYED can only color inside the lines FOREVER! There is no grey area anymore. How can there be? When did flirting cross the line to an EA? IDK They MUST have clearly defined lines(Especially for Marriage) It is a symptom of BETRAYAL. Its a defense mechanism. Its that simple. They were probably not so adimant about common law marriage in their "previous life". They probably even have(had) relatives who were common law married. But the BETRAYED HAS TO CALL THEM A "GIRLFRIEND". They have to live by law now in place of judgement because their WS lost all judgement so they no longer can "TRUST IT". DUDE

You all might care to take a look at my post on Mr W's Absolutely thread. I am astonished to find that I agree with Dude after all.

Heavens to betsy. What a thread.

So when dating think nothing of someone sleeping or what ever behind your back because it part of the GAME. i dont think so If i was dating some one for a while and they are screwing some one else I want to know committed or not. Thats like a girl giving a guy a BJ on a lunch date and then you kissing her at night after a coffee date

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DUDE with you on that

Dude, what part of the above is confusing you here? Nexus admits they are 2 single people. He states he does not live in a common law state and that his girlfriend was free to walk whenever she wanted. Where is the gray area here? You've been arguing this common-law thing for how long now? Even Nexus admits it doesn't apply to him. You don't even believe the OP knows his own situation better than you do?

Stay w/ me my friend..Our coalition is growing. We are healing. Join us.

I am Super Man...DUDE

Its common sense. They were married. They just didn't pay the $15 and declare it to the JOP. I'm sure their family counted them as married for NINE YEARS!! That aint a boyfriend/girlfriend. A ring on it(as the difference here) doesn't mean much or this forum wouldn't exist and be so heavily populated..DUDE

I give up! Nexus didn't consider himself married. The state he lives in didn't consider him married. But, Dude considers him married, so therefore, he is. A higher power has spoken.

DUDE their most be two super men because my son is in the army airborne div. and thats what he refers to himself as

He is a brave, courageous man for being inlisted and defending our rights and freedoms. You tell him DUDE says, "WHAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAZZZZZZZZZZZZZZUUUUUUUUUUUUPPPPPPPPPPPP??!!"